不!我不喜歡這種玩笑
嘲笑不是玩笑,傷人的言語一點也不幽默!
一同探討人際相處的言行界限,
培養孩子尊重同理的品格力!
◆傳遞給孩子無限正能量,反霸凌繪本續作登場,各界人士為「善」挺身而出!
◆臨床心理醫師、兒童心智診所所長、心理學作家、親子部落客、老師父母齊聲正義推薦!
◆教孩子勇敢、正向、堅強,陪伴孩子成長的最佳教育繪本
有些玩笑一點也不好笑!
玩笑的界定到底是什麼?
遭遇他人惡劣的玩笑、排擠、散播不實的謠言,
要尋求父母、師長或輔導員的協助,才能打造良好的友誼關係!
故事中的傑米、泰瑞和西德尼三個人是好朋友,
每年夏天,三人都會一同參加營隊,
直到今年,一位不認識的孩子泰勒,恰巧和他們分在同一間房間。
傑米為了湊齊營隊的報名費去賣糖果和雜誌,
泰勒卻跟大家說:「傑米很窮,必須靠賣糖果和雜誌賺錢。」
大家聽了全都哈哈大笑,傑米紅著臉,感到相當難為情,
泰勒卻回答:「我是開玩笑的啦!」……
傑米該如何讓泰勒理解他說的話很傷人呢?
如果同學說了讓你不舒服的話,該如何應對呢?
★遇到不友善的對待時,孩子可以這樣做:
1. 馬上制止他人,勇敢說出:「你這樣讓我很不開心!」
2. 旁觀者必須即時給予支援:「請你別這樣,他看起來很不舒服。」
3. 「這叫作幽默,你們懂不懂?」若霸凌者仍無法理解時,必須求助於大人的幫忙。
4. 得到幫助之後,要告訴自己:「我能勇敢說出我的想法!」、「我做得到,我要變得勇敢!」,展現你堅強的一面,讓他人不再欺負你。
作者亞曼達‧德林用愛書寫孩子不易察覺的傷人行為,所謂的隱性霸凌不容易被發現,這通常關乎朋友之間或團體內部的權力關係,例如:忽視某個同儕、故意排擠某人、開玩笑傷害某人的心、害某人當眾出糗……。
玩笑話說得不當,容易造成隱性的霸凌發生。其實這樣的狀況在大人之間也很常發生,朋友之間鬥鬥嘴、說些有趣的事,超出了他人能夠容忍的界限,說的人卻也不以為意,認為自己相當幽默,卻沒發現被開玩笑的人已經一臉難堪地笑不出來。如果開玩笑的人能即時察覺並向對方道歉固然很好;但相反的,如果說的人是故意為之並以此為樂,那就已經構成了一種霸凌。
◆帶有惡意的玩笑,不但不好笑,還有可能會讓人感到不舒服
「傑米,你要吃冰要自己付錢喔!」
「對了!你很窮,應該買不起。」
【跟孩子一起討論重要的事】
引導孩子思考將沒有的事放大來說,會讓被開玩笑的人感到難堪,
或是說出使人沮喪或喪失自信的話,都是讓人非常難過的行為。
遇到這樣的情況,我們應該要即時說出自己的感受,
告訴對方這樣的行為讓自己很不舒服。
◆散播不實的謠言,會傷害別人,讓友誼關係變差
「傑米你知道嗎?你不應該說泰瑞臭臭的。」
「泰瑞,我根本沒說過這樣的話,相信我!」
【跟孩子一起討論重要的事】
引導孩子思考如果刻意說出使人驚慌的謠言,
或是故意排擠對方,這樣的行為其實會非常傷人。
遇到這樣的情況,我們要先向對方解釋你並沒有說出讓他難過的話,
可能對方會無法相信你,但也要真誠的把實情說出來,
之後再請求他人的協助。
◆塗改照片,寫些不好的話嘲笑他人,會讓人感到相當沮喪
故事中傑米的照片被泰勒偷走並貼在木屋牆上,
上面寫著「尿床大王」,
有的人看著他大笑,有的人看到傑米後低著頭離開,
讓傑米感到相當羞恥。
【跟孩子一起討論重要的事】
引導孩子思考未經本人同意拿走他人的物品是不對的,
更不能在別人的物品上塗鴉。孩子們可以想想看,
這樣的事情如果發生在你身上,你會有怎樣的感受?
遇到這樣的情況,我們應該要尋求大人們的協助,
勇敢提出不舒服的原因,大家都會幫助你的喔!
►►適讀年齡
◎有注音,3~7歲親子共讀,7歲以上自己閱讀
◎本書關鍵字:反霸凌、關係霸凌、隱性霸凌、兒童情緒繪本、同理心
◎學習領域分類:社會
書系特色
「遠離霸凌‧保護自己」系列繪本共有四冊,以隱性情緒霸凌為探討起點,分別以「捉弄」、「恐嚇」、「開玩笑」、「推撞」為主題,無論是哪一種欺凌都會讓當事人身心自尊受到極大的傷害,影響心智發展,希望透過此系列繪本能鼓勵孩子建立正面積極的態度,讓孩子了解如果真的遭遇欺凌情況時,或是看到同儕被欺負時,應該如何面對並正確處理困境。
★強調「同理心」的重要,刻意拉攏他人成為自己的同夥,結果也會因自身的不當舉止:惡意玩笑、誣賴、偷取他人物品、編造謊言,產生他人對自己的不信任。
★可愛插圖搭配溫馨小語,傾訴孩子與同儕相處時不經意產生的霸凌問題。
★學習如何尊重他人,不當的玩笑通常是說者無意,聽者有意。教導孩子正確的幽默觀念,需在雙方都覺得有趣的情況下展現。
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