薩提爾親子對話專家李儀婷,從實戰經驗淬鍊超強親子對話練習,
30 種失控情境 x 3個對話工具 x 3道安全卡榫 x 3不1要,
超擬真實作練習,讓你三言兩語,扭轉親子、手足間的情緒困境。
想要對孩子表達關心之意,一開口孩子就發脾氣;
想迅速解決孩子的爭端,但自身情緒卻讓孩子像爆米花炸開……
為什麼孩子分秒都在挑戰父母極限?
核對彼此觀點、聚焦問題核心,和孩子好好說話。
➢先讓問題跑一會兒
‧與戰火保持距離,先平穩內在,別讓情緒影響你應對的姿態
‧孩子情緒仍沸騰時,只需陪伴,不必急於進場對話
‧尋找對話破口,貼近孩子的心,才能展開有效對話
➢以薩提爾模式展開對話
‧寧靜而專注的傾聽,讓孩子有被注意、被尊重,甚至被接納的感覺
‧以好奇探索衝突,核對孩子真正的意思,讓問題聚焦
‧結束對話時,誠摯欣賞孩子的努力,把負向行為轉為正向價值
➢拋棄對話慣性
‧不要以高壓語言介入戰火
‧不要以上對下、過來人的姿態對話
‧不要以自己的價值判斷回應,忽略孩子的深層需求
➢應對的姿態
‧良好的溝通,始於父母平穩的內在
‧直拳教養,讓孩子變成情緒怪獸;蹲下來,看看孩子目光裡隱藏的故事
‧情緒升起時,不急著應對,柔軟的語言,能帶來深層的反省與覺察
‧你可以有期待,但允許期待落空,並學著接納失落
‧在日常裡埋下愛的訊息,讓自己成為孩子最溫柔的牽絆
☆以薩提爾模式開啟的親子對話☆
溝通出現障礙時,試著挪動孩子的感受位置,將對話導向一個有接納有體諒的過程,才是有效溝通。
◆有氣喘病史的老大三三咳得嚴重,要求媽媽坐著抱她睡。沒多久,妹妹川川趨前,也來討抱。
媽媽:「姊姊生病不舒服,我抱著她,讓她睡一會兒。」
川川眼眶泛紅:「媽媽不愛我了,我也想要抱抱!」
媽媽:「我很愛你,但現在姊姊咳嗽很嚴重,所以媽媽得抱著她睡……」
川川:「媽媽,我也不舒服,咳咳(假咳),我也要抱抱。」……
◆當溝通陷入僵局,試試看,要在下列對話中填入什麼句子,才能讓各據一方的親子對話匯流,有效溝通?
媽媽:「川川有看到姊姊生病了嗎?」
川川:「有。」
媽媽:「川川覺得姊姊是很舒服還是很不舒服?」
川川:「我覺得姊姊很不舒服。」
媽媽:「_________________________________________」
川川:「好啊!要怎麼幫姊姊?」
媽媽:「_________________________________________」
川川認真思考了一會後說:「媽媽抱姊姊沒問題,我可以幫忙。媽媽,你抱完姊姊,也可以抱抱我嗎?我也想要你抱抱!」
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Specifications 規格
Contents: 272 pages
Publisher: 天下文化
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