全方位蒙特梭利教養書
「爸媽不發飆,孩子輕鬆教」的優雅教養祕訣!
32則案例28個QA分享 × 73個蒙特梭利專家觀點 × 3階段幼兒教養提醒
孩子愛亂碰東西、一意孤行、自我中心、
在餐廳亂叫、推人搶玩具、要玩具不買就哭鬧……
好言相勸被當耳邊風,罵他又不聽,打了又心疼,
最怕的就是他當眾哭鬧……唉~教孩子怎麼就這麼難啊!
別擔心!20年幼教經驗的蒙特梭利專家Henry羅寶鴻老師教你——
★優雅教養6大祕訣
【祕訣1】制定明確規範並堅持態度——確立原則、堅持原則
【祕訣2】與孩子討論並約定——事前約定
【祕訣3】孩子違反規範時,成人可先採取的措施——提醒四步驟
【祕訣4】幫助孩子建立規範的祕訣——兩個選擇
【祕訣5】淡定面對孩子的情緒反應——同理但不處理、不要坐以待斃
【祕訣6】正確對待孩子錯誤的方式——秋後算帳
★讀懂孩子身心發展特色,教養事半功倍——
【8~10個月】愛亂丟東西、跟大人玩你丟我撿
Q. 孩子現在10個月,老愛故意丟手上的東西怎麼辦?
A: 孩子不是頑皮!此時他的手部髓鞘化到達手掌及手指,正處於「有意識釋放手中物品」的發展期,這是孩子在成長過程中,為完美自身動作的必然階段性發展過程,動作精鍊就不會亂丟東西。
【1~1.5歲】愛玩日常生活中的易碎品
Q. 孩子1歲2個月,老愛玩爸媽的玻璃杯,怎麼勸都勸不聽……
A: 這時期的孩子處於探索環境期,想探索日常生活環境的內在衝動比後天控制力強,與其不讓孩子碰這些「易碎品」,不如教他如何小心使用,再由大人在一旁觀察監護。孩子在探索的過程中可以滿足內在需求並發展專注力。
【1.5~3歲】喜歡說「不要!」、講都講不聽
Q. 孩子2歲半,大人叫他不要做的事情講都講不聽,該怎麼辦?
A: 1.5~3歲的孩子正處於「自我認同危機期」,當他想做一件事被成人阻止,就會有強烈的反抗行為,也開始會跟成人說「不要」,來切割自己與成人。可活用本書的「提醒四步驟」、「兩個選擇」、「同理不處理」,讓孩子體驗做了錯誤選擇後的結果。
【1.5~3歲】不要大人幫忙卻又愛生氣
Q.孩子2歲半,玩積木蓋房子做不好,自己生氣又不讓大人幫忙……
A:在孩子沒有主動要求下,成人不干涉孩子的活動、或協助孩子,否則可能讓他失去了自我修正、自我學習、以及自我完美的機會。培養孩子獨立自主的能力,注意不要給予他不必要的協助。
【1.5~3歲】孩子愛推別人、搶別人玩具
Q.孩子2歲8個月,只要覺得其他小朋友會來搶他正在玩的東西,就會動手推人,怎麼辦?
A:這是孩子在2~3歲發展中常出現的行為(尤其是男生),不是他「故意不聽話」或「講都講不聽」。若有需要,家長可以用「溫和、穩定」的態度介入。先安撫受委屈的孩子,就能讓孩子知道冒犯了別人,之後重申規範,確立原則。
【4~6歲】做錯事會怪罪別人
Q. 4歲孩子做錯事後一直抱怨:「都是媽媽害的!」「我討厭媽媽!」該怎麼辦呢?
A:在「自我認同危機期」時,成人若沒有做到「給予孩子選擇的機會」,讓他「經驗選擇後的結果」,孩子就不會學到如何做出正確選擇、並為自己的行為負責任。孩子出現這些不尊重的話語時,當下要清楚跟他說明;之後在適當時機跟孩子討論,並約定以後不講這些不尊重父母的話。
【4~6歲】不給他買玩具就耍賴、大哭
Q. 4歲孩子到百貨公司吵著買玩具、不給他買就當眾尖叫大哭……
A: 孩子哭鬧時,不要用責備、對立的方式繼續挑釁他的情緒。活用「堅持原則」、「同理但不處理」、「不要坐以待斃」、以及「轉移孩子注意力」的方法,就能解決孩子耍賴的問題。
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