★讀懂孩子的情緒,化解親子戰爭,讓孩子在父母的愛與理解中茁壯
情緒背後,都有一個故事,那是深不可測的禮物。
在洶湧的情緒面前,唯有穩定,才能連結彼此,挖掘溫暖一輩子的寶藏。
父母是孩子的土壤,提供孩子長大的養分。
浸潤薩提爾模式之後,愈能平穩的回應孩子,愈能扭轉孩子的慣性風暴。
然而成長過程猶如一場運動賽事,不管平日練習得再好,
孩子的成長一定會有起伏,失誤肯定也不會短少。
而平常的練習,就是將失誤機率降低的最好辦法。
只要父母能以更豐富的目光看待孩子成長,
孩子的覺察會愈快速,也愈能接納挑戰及修正錯誤。
──李儀婷
親子教養作家李儀婷有三個可愛的孩子,分別是三三、川川、一一。大女兒三三兩歲以前,她採取的是責備、高壓式傳統教育,在一次親子衝突中,三三竟朝她狂怒嘶吼,令她體察教養的重要,於是將薩提爾模式導入家庭關係中,開啟家庭和諧的契機。在本書中,她從生活衝突提煉安頓情緒的祕訣,陪孩子走過情緒壅塞期。
孩子成為情緒怪獸時,別急著用蠻力扳回一城,
用平穩之心,「陪跑界諧星」為軸,陪孩子走過情緒風暴:
➢先安頓自己
.將注意力移回己身,關注內在
.接納、辨識情緒,別讓情緒越級成為主人
.欣賞自己情緒升起時,仍願意面對困境、不放棄溝通
➢真誠「陪」伴
.以寬廣的接納、無期限的等待,做為教養的底蘊
.辨識孩子話裡的情緒和事件,聽懂孩子的情感訴求
.以「聽核心2.0」引導孩子展開高品質對話
➢讓問題「跑」一會兒
.放手讓孩子的情緒奔流
.送出關心與愛的話語
.挖掘情緒背後的訊息
➢劃定「界」線
.在情緒風暴漸息時,找到對話契機
.以貼近孩子內在為主軸,劃定界線與家庭規範
.親子保有安全界線,彼此得到最大的自由
➢目標「協」商
.孩子從暴走中回神,便可進入協商
.以穩定的話語及心價值的能量,領會孩子的語意
.找出彼此能妥協或認同的方法,越過困境
➢用「心」欣賞
.欣賞永遠是對話最佳的結束語
.感性話語是最好的黏著劑,能輕易將孩子拉近自己
.以豐富眼光看孩子,讓孩子汲取父母目光中的肯定,安穩成長
本書特色
1.《薩提爾的親子對話》進階實作版
2.將薩提爾模式落實於家庭,適用於親子情緒教育、夫妻和諧應對
3.以「聽核心2.0」、「覺知手允納心」、「陪跑界諧星」、「養成對戒」等安頓身心、高效對話的系統工具,化解親子間的情緒衝突
4.從大量日常溝通實戰中,提煉出對話脈絡,示範如何引導孩子走過情緒風暴
Specifications 規格
Contents: 304 pages
Publisher: 天下文化
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