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輕鬆化解每一場親子衝突，孩子守紀律有自信！
★謝玉蓮臨床心理師【專文推薦】──從「自我」到「群體」，讓孩子安心去探險
★日本亞馬遜讀者好評推薦，百萬父母最有共鳴的教養經典！
成為父母後，最感挫折的時刻，應該就是當孩子開啟「無限循環任性＋耍賴＋滾地鬼打牆模式」──在公共場合亂跑亂叫、不守規矩、鬧脾氣、打人、沒大沒小、說謊等行為，被孩子氣到火冒三丈、惹到快爆炸的那些時刻吧？孩子甚至會說出「最討厭媽媽了、我不要跟你好了」等令人傷透心的話語。
雖然我們都不是完美的父母，但為了孩子的安全及未來著想，還是希望孩子能懂事聽話，在成長路上可以一天比一天更好、更成熟。過去權威高壓、大吼大叫的管教方式，對孩子起不了作用，反而會因為在無形中與孩子心靈疏離。
到底「管教」該如何拿捏收放，才能讓孩子發自內心的聽話、親子關係更柔軟呢？
本書作者明橋大二瞭解所有父母在教養問題上的焦慮及徬徨無措，因此以情境漫畫的方式，輕鬆圖解親子在教養上的困境，並強調以培養孩子自我肯定為基礎，針對3~6歲的孩子心靈狀態，剖析孩子的情緒反應其真實內在，為所有的教養疑問提供專業而又溫暖的應對回應。
不打不罵，才能傾聽孩子內心的聲音；
不打不罵，才能真正地化解親子衝突，脫離失控懊悔的教養循環。
■孩子感到「被重視」，是一切管教的源頭
作者在親子諮商過程發現，管教和守規矩的源頭是「重視對方的心」，但是不認為「自己受到重視」的孩子，如何能夠重視別人呢？大多數父母都是用負面的情緒化言言與孩子溝通：
「我沒辦法抱你，我要拿東西！」
「你不覺得你這樣很丟臉嗎？」
「你這個壞毛病不改，我也沒辦法……」
「這個也不要、那個也不要，啊～～～你到底要什麼！？」
「不要邊走邊吃，很醜！」
這些話對孩子來說，都是否定的詞彙，父母不斷重複負面話語，孩子也會漸漸認為「爸媽討厭我、我是沒用的人」，教導孩子規矩是重要的，但是在學會守規矩前，更重要的是培養孩子的「自我肯定感」。
■改變生活小舉動，培養孩子的自我肯定感
孩子不是機器人，並不會因為一兩次的教導馬上就改變，請給孩子多一點時間，也給自己多一點寬容，不要把孩子的所有表現都扛成自己的責任，只要有耐心地依照本書的指導，一定能看到成果，孩子也會朝著好的方向改變。
孩子的成長是漸進式的，每個孩子成長幅度也是快慢有別，所以父母們不需要焦急，只要給對愛，孩子會在正向的管教中健康長大。作者在書中也提出許多生活上小舉動，就能幫助孩子培養自我肯定感：
✓一句「謝謝」就能讓孩子很開心，讚美讓心靈更茁壯
→就算只是簡單的小事也跟孩子說：「謝謝」，就能讓孩子知道自己能幫上別人的忙、別人也需要自己的幫助。
✓常常說「我都知道喔！」跟孩子站在同一陣線，一起開心難過
→「共感」是培養孩子自我肯定感最有效的一種途徑，就算只是單純的理解孩子難過的心情，孩子的心就能得到療癒，擁有力量自己重新站起來
■「中間叛逆期」是為孩子獨立做準備的重要階段
3歲孩子的第一叛逆期結束之後，很快「中間叛逆期」就要開始了。這個階段孩子的特色就是「頂嘴」，也就是「你說A我說B」的狀態，早熟的孩子從5歲就會開始，這也是代表孩子準備獨立的重要階段。面對易怒的孩子，父母更不該和孩子站在同等級上戰鬥，而是要退一步思考「為什麼孩子會這麼煩躁」，作者也提出與孩子有效溝通的三大重點：
重點1：即便覺得孩子做不到，也讓他試試看
「我知道了，那接下來你自己去做喔！」
→或許父母會認為不提醒的話，孩子就不會去做，不過還是耐心等待，如果結果仍失敗，孩子也會因為切身體會而學到了一課。
重點2：孩子嚴重反抗時，要留心孩子的壓力來源
「在幼稚園是不是有碰到討厭的事呢？」
→明明沒有特別干涉孩子，孩子卻嚴重反抗，這時就可以大膽推測，也許孩子在外面有什麼人事物造成他的壓力，或是與老師聯絡，找出問題點。
重點3：用擁抱軟化孩子的心， 千萬不要硬碰硬
「你是很了不起的哥哥，什麼都不用擔心喔！」
→這個階段的孩子雖然想要撒嬌，但是卻因為自尊從中阻撓，孩子也可能變得渾身是刺，因此父母記得不要硬碰硬，而是緊緊抱住孩子，創造獨處的時間，給孩子撒嬌的機會，孩子就會稍微坦誠一點。
【給父母們的教養心靈雞湯】
別被害妄想解讀孩子的言行是「看不起父母、把爸媽當笨蛋耍」，請相信孩子絕對沒有這樣的意圖。
等待孩子成長，先暫時放下有時是必要的。
孩子不聽話，代表他自我意識開始萌芽，也是心靈順利成長的證明。
傾聽孩子、包容孩子，孩子的心情也會隨著自己受到大人珍視，而有所轉變。
其實孩子都知道答案，孩子只是希望不甘心、生氣的心情得到理解。
別為孩子事事包辦，保持恰當的距離感，是親子彼此開始相處的祕訣。
孩子大鬧一場後，別忘了給他一個緊緊的擁抱。
本書特色
★15個管教心法，完整剖析孩子真實內心
圖解孩子反抗、吃醋行為、甚至退化行為，一步步剖析兒童真實心靈與情緒，讓父母不再因為教養問題傷透腦筋。
★10大育兒煩惱，淡定面對孩子的叛逆期
總是質疑自己是否教養失敗的爸媽，從此寬心看待孩子的成長階段。
★6大教養關鍵，有效溝通代替打罵
如何適切的傾聽、理解與讚美，讓家有學齡前幼兒的父母輕鬆看待管教這門功課。
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Dimensions：14.8 x 20.8 x 1.9 cm | 5.83 x 8.19 x 0.75 in
Contents: 304 pages
Publisher: 和平國際
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